“Think how the other person must feel.”

My mother said those words to me hundreds or thousands, or perhaps only a few dozen times. They were the words that stuck, the instruction that carried over into my dreams where I routinely switch characters. I might be me for a while, but then the other person. I consider how the other person feels. This hasn’t always meant I was as kind or considerate as my mother intended. It did mean that I sometimes see another’s side so clearly that I feel what they feel. That is what I like to think she hoped for.

Oystercatchers make a sound like a squeaky toy. We know this pair at Hug Point very well, and have watched them successfully raise their babies. The black oystercatcher (Haematopus bachmani) doesn’t eat oysters in our area because we have none locally. According to Wikipedia, “It forages in the intertidal zone, feeding on marine invertebrates, particularly molluscs such as mussels, limpets and chitons, but also on crabs, isopods and barnacles.” You can see barnacles and mussels in the photo. What you can’t see in this photo, taken predawn, is the oystercatchers’ red beaks, reddish legs, and bright eyes in dark gold and red-rimmed like enamel on copper.
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OPTIMISM

I am at heart an optimist. I was reading books about faith and ethics while I was still a child of ten, looking to find my way toward goodness. I was taught and believed and still believe that goodness matters, that what we call goodness is something to pursue and to praise.

This is a jellyfish, the orange west coast “sea nettle”, Chrysaora fuscescens. I have seen this jelly cast on shore my entire life; it is the one my dad warned me about because they do sting like a bee. [The “moon jellies,” water jelly, Aequorea sp., are mostly colorless or blueish and I herded small ones in the water without harm when I was younger.] This one is upside down and much, much larger than any I saw as a child, though not quite as large as the one we found recently that measured more than 22 inches across. The beach is littered with sea nettles just now, mostly broken but also some whole like this one.
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about BUTTERFLY FONTANELLE

“Butterfly Fontanelle” was the title of a short story I began writing more than three years ago. The fontanelle is the soft spot in the top on a baby’s skull where the bone has not yet quite closed over the brain. A “butterfly fontanelle” is the shape of such a soft spot, like two paired wings. Human babies, like most all mammals, are born before they are mature. A newborn cobra can already bite and kill you. Mammals may be able to stand but most are still becoming. For example, most people know a puppy’s eyes remain closed for a couple of weeks after birth, but her ears are sealed shut too. A puppy cannot learn until she is about three weeks old. Human babies . . . must gain sight and depth perception. Infants are becoming human.

But first, because this has been a hard week, I want to share a publication on the Brevity blog: “Art Saves Lives” I am wearing my felted Acme hat, handmade on the east slope of the Olympic Mountains.

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NEIGHBORING MYTH

 

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Myth is scripture. Myth is wisdom. Myth is sacred story. Myth is magic and meaning. Myth defines and supports the goodness in us. It shows us a path, and as symbol—never underestimate symbols—myth is always true. Always.

As a public high school English teacher I was very respectful in using the word “myth.” I introduced it as a sacred story. However, like the authors of most every essay and study I have read, I did not address the obvious connection between the mythology of traditional cultures and the mythology of more modern ones. I was careful not to offend. I continued to be hopeful that others more powerfully placed will detail the parallels between Christian and other contemporaries mythologies and the ancient ones. They never do.

There is the “old wives’ tale” smear of mythology, as if the story your old grandmother told was a lie because it was not entirely factual. Or because it was told by an old woman. As if the decency and honesty rewarded in her story were not the point. As if she meant harm.

I used to hope that a few of my students, at least, might eventually see how Spider Grandmother and an archangel might share a place in the human pursuit for meaning. That they might appreciate how our connection to decency and fairness is not merely regulatory, but human and humane, a spiritual negotiation that allows us all to survive. Goodness as a universal truth. A Truth.

Most creation stories involve animals, plants, and failure. The Haida allow that Raven created the world mostly by accident. The Judeo-Christian tradition made the world on purpose, human beings on purpose, and death as a result of error. It matters to some people whether all or any of these stories are literally true. To others the message is significant enough. Do the right thing. Do right. All mythology works that way. Was it Atlas who carried the world on his back or a tortoise? Is the snake a symbol of evil or, by shedding skin, of rebirth?

It depends on who you ask.

The Story of Job warns against assuming we understand the why of events, but all mythology warns against doing what we know to be wrong, even when we do not understand why.

Societies pursue various goals and notions of virtue, but theft and murder and deceit are common evils. Generosity, compassion, and patience are nearly always admired and spiritually rewarded.

We are capable of knowing right from wrong. We are even capable of changing our minds about how we define those terms—which is much harder to manage. It is easier to stick with what we always thought before. Easier to not think, not weigh options, not reconsider what we think we know, not question good. Easier to assume evil is somewhere else far away. Evil as something outside and Other.

Strangely, like most life on earth, we will sacrifice ourselves for others. Human beings will do this, even sacrificing our safety and our lives for others. Wolves will do that too. Trees will pass over nutrition to a neighbor tree. Insects, fungus, single-celled life—all willing to die that their fellows may live. Altruism is not a rare virtue.

Sometimes we become so caught up in competition, in winning, and in hubris (our inflated self-importance) that we forget what we know to be true: we live together and we must get along in order to live virtuous lives.

Perfect innocence was never our destiny. We must constantly choose to do the right thing. Some humans creep about like Cain, hoping no one will notice who killed their brother. But there is no future in worrying continually, in fortifying ourselves against the Cains among us. How can that profit our lives? Surrendering to such fears makes cowards of us.

The vast majority of us are only doing the best we know how—to be good, generous, compassionate, and patient. We do this not only from fear of punishment. We do this not only when someone is watching. Sometimes we fail and bow to pride, selfishness, spite, and vengeance. Most often we do not. We do the right thing because we know it is right and we are comfortable with ourselves in doing what is right and good.

If we were more bad than good, no child would survive past the age of two. It would not be safe for me to say good morning to strangers on the beach. There would be no one risking censure to speak back to those in power. I see goodness everywhere, because even in our failings, most of us are trying our best to do good. Virtue is not Other.

We do the right thing because that goodness is in us.

The wives told.